Confessions of a Girl Boss


How I Made the Decision to Become an
Amazing Leader

If you’ve been keeping up with my Behind the Divine column thus far, then you know that many of the humbling moments I’ve shared here come down to one thing: leadership.

When it comes to managing a team I’ve made every mistake in the book. I’ve tried to be the “nice boss,” only to be let down by missed deadlines and sub-par work. I’ve tried to be the “boss with high standards,” resulting in a stressful work environment. And as for hiring and firing, it’s always felt like I just couldn’t get it right.

I started to resign myself to the idea that leadership is simply not in my zone of genius. Sure, I could blame others and everyone has their part in it, but at the end of the day, the common denominator is always me.

At the beginning of this year I realized that if I really wanted to get to the next level in my business, I couldn’t turn a blind eye to this weakness any longer. Reflecting back on my career, I thought about all of the weaknesses I’ve had to transform in order to grow my business to where it is today.

Believe it or not there was a time when it seemed like every other coach could get a client except for me. I deeply craved financial freedom and didn’t understand why it was such a struggle. After all, I was doing the work and heavily investing in myself, attending seminars, working with mentors and studying books to learn about femininity, spirituality, relationships and personal development.

Then one day I realized—I’m developing myself in all of these areas, but I haven’t had one ounce of business training! Immediately I dedicated myself to changing that. I enrolled in new programs, worked with business coaches, started reading new books. I learned everything I could about wealth consciousness, sales and online marketing. Soon enough getting clients and bringing in money felt like second nature.

btd-dc-w4-1However that was not the end of my journey. The next phase of my business development came out of my desire to have a brand and visual presence I could truly love and feel proud of. Branding didn’t come naturally to me and for a long time it was one of the weakest areas of my business. I had to make the decision to invest in my brand, seek out the right talent and discover my own wow factor.

This is all to say that most of us do not come out of the box knowing how to get that first client, market our services or develop a strong personal brand. So why should we expect ourselves to know how to be great leaders, too? I may not have been born knowing the best way to manage a team, but I’ve already proven to myself that anything is learnable, so my next phase is all about learning to be an amazing leader.

I’ve only just started on this journey, but already I feel like I have a totally renewed perspective on leadership. I’ve hired an executive mentor and Glenn and I have joined two different mastermind groups to support us in becoming the leaders we desire to be.

I’m also currently reading a book called Multipliers that has been totally revelatory. The book shows you how to go from being a “diminisher”—a boss that tears employees down—to being a “multiplier”—a leader who attracts and amplifies great talent. The information feels life changing and it’s been inspiring me to wake up a little earlier each morning to take it all in.

I can see a change happening within me, where I’m starting to understand the importance of leadership techniques I used to roll my eyes at—like core values and mission statements, elements that used to feel so “corporate” to me. And not only do I see how these techniques are essential to growing a big company, I realize that I can implement them to create exactly the kind of company culture I desire—it doesn’t have to feel “corporate,” it can feel authentically like Divine Living.

I know I’m not the only one out there who struggles with managing a team, hiring the right people and rallying strong support around projects. Whether you’ve gone through three or 300 virtual assistants…know that you’re not alone and that you are not a lost cause! We at Divine Living are here to support you as you step into the role of an empowered women leader, as I believe each and every one of us has the potential to become.

  All My Love,




multipliersLearn To Lead
In this life changing best-seller, leadership guru Liz Wiseman shows us how the best leaders inspire their team to push their limits and surpass expectations. Drawing on extensive research and her 17 years as a VP at Oracle Corporation, Liz’s stories illuminate the way “multipliers” use their intelligence to amplify the smarts and capabilities of everyone around them.



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