– Dawn Grossart
York, United Kingdom
I’ve lived enough life to know that even in the most challenging times, things turn out for the best. Rather than going into the depths of despair and spending two weeks straight ordering Domino’s, I’ve learned how to quickly refocus my energy and keep moving forward.
To create that kind of resilience in yourself, it’s essential to always stay connected to your dream.
Since I work to stay deeply connected to my desires, I know there’s always a way to get there, though I may have to change my direction. When the Universe is saying no, it’s not because I’m being punished, it’s because something bigger and better is trying to get to me. Necessity is the mother of invention, so actually I find that in challenging times I get even more creative and resourceful.
Fear of criticism is often one of the greatest challenges women entrepreneurs face, and I’ve been there. In the past, I was so co-dependent—I didn’t just want people to like me, I needed them to approve of me. Any negative comment would send me into a spiral of shame and paralysis. I certainly couldn’t have gotten to where I am now without doing a lot of work so that the approval of others would no longer hold power over my life.
Criticism comes in different shapes and sizes: doubt, fear, projection, jealousy etc.
When it comes to my colleagues and people I seek to collaborate with, “no” is something I continue to hear to this day, however I learned a long time ago that “no” actually just means “not yet.” Sometimes it’s just other people’s doubts in their own limitations, and I never let myself take that on. When someone tells me “no, you can’t have a magazine, no, clothing lines fail more than restaurants, no, a TV show is out of reach,” I stay in my excitement and remember that it just means not right this second. I definitely heard “no” when it came to the Divine Living Magazine, and yet here we are!
Another place we coaches are open to criticism is from our clients. I’ve received my fair share of disgruntled, angry e-mails demanding refunds for my programs. However I don’t let this derail me, because I remember all of the other e-mails thanking me profusely for my work, often from the same program, and after all I’m the same person!
So when I do receive negative, highly critical feedback, I first check in and see if there’s any truth in it for me.
That said, being in a position of leadership with women who are working on themselves, I’ve become comfortable with being open to amount of projection that stems from money issues, mother issues, and personal issues, and know when these are not my issue. People will have their own experiences—of themselves, of life, of me, and of my programs—and I can’t possibly control them all.
Going to the next level in business really does require managing both your inner emotions and outer actions. Inwardly, I have to see the vision, believe in it, stand by it and impress it into the universe so it manifests, and outwardly I have to take the action. It’s that simple.
When working toward something new and challenging, the pattern I see is that people start to obsess over the outer game because they feel they need to be working so hard every second, and then they go into overwhelm and shut down. When you take your hand off the wheel in one area, you end up spinning off track. What I do differently is to stay with it until it’s manifested. I take time to connect to my vision every day AND take action on it every day, and that’s really also how I’ve managed to stay joyful, keep my vibration high, and withstand criticism.
– Dawn Grossart
York, United Kingdom
Hi Dawn,
I’ve lived enough life to know that even in the most challenging times, things turn out for the best. Rather than going into the depths of despair and spending two weeks straight ordering Domino’s, I’ve learned how to quickly refocus my energy and keep moving forward.
To create that kind of resilience in yourself, it’s essential to always stay connected to your dream.
Since I work to stay deeply connected to my desires, I know there’s always a way to get there, though I may have to change my direction. When the Universe is saying no, it’s not because I’m being punished, it’s because something bigger and better is trying to get to me. Necessity is the mother of invention, so actually I find that in challenging times I get even more creative and resourceful.
Fear of criticism is often one of the greatest challenges women entrepreneurs face, and I’ve been there. In the past, I was so co-dependent—I didn’t just want people to like me, I needed them to approve of me. Any negative comment would send me into a spiral of shame and paralysis. I certainly couldn’t have gotten to where I am now without doing a lot of work so that the approval of others would no longer hold power over my life.
Criticism comes in different shapes and sizes: doubt, fear, projection, jealousy etc.
When it comes to my colleagues and people I seek to collaborate with, “no” is something I continue to hear to this day, however I learned a long time ago that “no” actually just means “not yet.” Sometimes it’s just other people’s doubts in their own limitations, and I never let myself take that on. When someone tells me “no, you can’t have a magazine, no, clothing lines fail more than restaurants, no, a TV show is out of reach,” I stay in my excitement and remember that it just means not right this second. I definitely heard “no” when it came to the Divine Living Magazine, and yet here we are!
Another place we coaches are open to criticism is from our clients. I’ve received my fair share of disgruntled, angry e-mails demanding refunds for my programs. However I don’t let this derail me, because I remember all of the other e-mails thanking me profusely for my work, often from the same program, and after all I’m the same person!
So when I do receive negative, highly critical feedback, I first check in and see if there’s any truth in it for me.
That said, being in a position of leadership with women who are working on themselves, I’ve become comfortable with being open to amount of projection that stems from money issues, mother issues, and personal issues, and know when these are not my issue. People will have their own experiences—of themselves, of life, of me, and of my programs—and I can’t possibly control them all.
Going to the next level in business really does require managing both your inner emotions and outer actions. Inwardly, I have to see the vision, believe in it, stand by it and impress it into the universe so it manifests, and outwardly I have to take the action. It’s that simple.
When working toward something new and challenging, the pattern I see is that people start to obsess over the outer game because they feel they need to be working so hard every second, and then they go into overwhelm and shut down. When you take your hand off the wheel in one area, you end up spinning off track. What I do differently is to stay with it until it’s manifested. I take time to connect to my vision every day AND take action on it every day, and that’s really also how I’ve managed to stay joyful, keep my vibration high, and withstand criticism.
