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Dr. Glenn A. Sisk, Gina’s Husband and
the CEO of Divine Living, Tells Us How to
Balance A Life of Work and Romance

Being in business with your romantic partner or soulmate can be a very powerful, synergistic relationship. To access that power, however, a couple needs to get aligned on their vision and work to create a harmonious life of their own design.

In the beginning of our relationship, Gina and I had no plans of going into business together. Personally, I had a previous experience that did not inspire me to mix business and intimacy ever again. Over time as I was looking for a change in profession, and Gina was finding a lot of success in her coaching and lifestyle soulmate-quotebusiness and needing support, our working relationship emerged naturally. It became clear that my skill set could help grow the company, and as we became business partners, I assumed the CEO role. It was a long transition from husband and wife to working couple, and we learned a lot in the process.

I’m proud to say that over all these years we’ve managed to keep both our working relationship and our personal relationship strong while growing our business to great success. We loved working together in the beginning, and we still do to this day. I am constantly inspired by Gina’s brilliance—the way she looks at me with her eyes all lit up when she has an idea, and you can feel the energy in her rising to another level. I really love her vision and how much she cares about empowering women to become visible—I worship her for that.

A lot comes up when you introduce business into an intimate relationship, and I believe I’ve become a much more balanced person because of it. Being aligned in your purposes is essential, and beyond that there are several things to be mindful of as you begin working together. Below are what I’ve learned to be the 5 most important things a conscious couple should do to have a happy and synergistic relationship.

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I know that for a lot of couples, a working relationship is something they fall into. Just letting it happen and seeing where it leads can turn out fine, however I don’t think that it’s the best recipe for success when it comes to your romantic life or your business. There has to be a point where you sit down and make a conscious decision to be in business together. Talk through everything about the arrangement, outline your responsibilities, expectations, and goals, and make sure you are completely in agreement. It is really crucial at this point to know your partner’s quirks and what they can and cannot tolerate.
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The most important thing you’ll discuss upfront is what is needed from each of you in your particular
arrangement. Gina and I are both very strong-willed and good at being the visionary, however with Divine sm-01Living she is the founder, creator, and leader. While I take leadership in other areas of our relationship, when it comes to the business she has final say, and I am there to support her.

I see my job as holding the container, being a sounding board, and bringing the masculine force into the business by giving it structure. If she needs my opinion, she’s definitely going to ask for it. In most cases, what she needs is for me to listen to her, get the substance and organization, and give it structure to carry it out. Every relationship is different—the man might be the visionary energy, the woman might bring implementation and processes. Really make an effort to know each other, and be conscious of your strengths and weaknesses.

If you’re in a support role, it’s a good idea to hang back sometimes, observe how your partner operates and then make the necessary adjustments. Build compassion and understanding, don’t be too controlling and remember that there is more than one way to do things.

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The most important thing you’ll discuss upfront is what is needed from each of you in your particulararrangement. Gina and I are both very strong-willed and good at being the visionary, however with sm-01Divine Living she is the founder, creator, and leader. While I take leadership in other areas of our relationship, when it comes to the business she has final say, and I am there to support her.

I see my job as holding the container, being a sounding board, and bringing the masculine force into the business by giving it structure. If she needs my opinion, she’s definitely going to ask for it. In most cases, what she needs is for me to listen to her, get the substance and organization, and give it structure to carry it out. Every relationship is different—the man might be the visionary energy, the woman might bring implementation and processes. Really make an effort to know each other, and be conscious of your strengths and weaknesses.

If you’re in a support role, it’s a good idea to hang back sometimes, observe how your partner operates and then make the necessary adjustments. Build compassion and understanding, don’t be too controlling and remember that there is more than one way to do things.

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It’s really easy to be sitting on the patio with your partner, enjoying a great dinner and a nice glass of Italian wine, and find yourself glued to your iPhone looking at work emails. It can be one of the hardest things for couples who are working together to leave the business behind for the night and just enjoy each other, but it is very important to make the effort and really set strict boundaries.

 
soulmate-quote-2Being all business all the time can create a lot of stress and pressure. Most likely you came together because you enjoyed each other’s company and had a romantic connection. To maintain that intimacy you have to make time for fun and you have to value that time as much as you do your working hours—and that means giving your partner your full attention. Even when it comes to couples who aren’t working together, it’s the ones who make time to go out, leave the kids behind, and just enjoy one another who maintain a strong relationship.

Something that has benefitted Gina and I in a big way is to turn of technology at 6pm—often I don’t even bring my phone to dinner when we’re going out. It helps to remind us to be present and keep communication really open. Make sure you’re paying attention to one another so that you aren’t putting bricks in the wall between you. Always keep giving and keep changing things up when it comes to what you do together.

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Because I know my role in holding the container for Gina in our business, I’m able to pick my battles and keep
things positive and light. As I mentioned earlier, there are many ways to do something, and it’s best to stay open to how your partner wants to proceed—especially if they are the leader in the business.

sm-02Once you and your partner decide who has final say in what areas, you can consciously accept that, and focus on moving forward without being emotionally attached to personal preferences. If you’re like me, then you get easily fired up about ideas. It’s great to share those ideas and have input, but ultimately I defer to Gina and really only express my will strongly when I feel it’s really, really important.

It’s okay if you think differently about something, but you probably don’t want to have a blow-out because of it—it’s business. So most of the time I’m happy to hang back, and implement the decisions. I love working with Gina and I love what we’re doing together, so as long as I’m having fun, then we’re able to work toward the larger vision we share.

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Because I know my role in holding the container for Gina in our business, I’m able to pick my battles and keep things positive and light. As I mentioned earlier, there are many ways to do something, and it’s best to stay open to how your partner wants to proceed—especially if they are the leader in the business.

sm-02Once you and your partner decide who has final say in what areas, you can consciously accept that, and focus on moving forward without being emotionally attached to personal preferences. If you’re like me, then you get easily fired up about ideas. It’s great to share those ideas and have input, but ultimately I defer to Gina and really only express my will strongly when I feel it’s really, really important.

It’s okay if you think differently about something, but you probably don’t want to have a blow-out because of it—it’s business. So most of the time I’m happy to hang back, and implement the decisions. I love working with Gina and I love what we’re doing together, so as long as I’m having fun, then we’re able to work toward the larger vision we share.

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Working together and having an intimate relationship requires a great deal of harmony, and one of the quickest ways to disrupt that harmony is by making your partner feel under-appreciated or disrespected. You need to cultivate mutual reverence, and treat each other in a way that honors all that you both give to the relationship and to the business. Remember to encourage and remind your partner of how much you appreciate them. Express how you feel in writing and out loud, letting them know they make a big difference in your life.

 
When Gina needs me to do something for her, she’ll come up to me and mysteriously look at me and touch me and say, “I just want to tell you what a big difference you make in my life. Would you be willing to support me in…” When she brings that kind of energy to our exchange, there’s no hesitation—I’m there, absolutely. I melt like a stick of butter. However if she comes up to me without honoring me in that way, I can be very energetically resistant. The path becomes much easier, more fruitful, and beneficial to both of us when we remember to treat each other with admiration, respect and affection.

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