Why I Would Tell My Former
Self to Stop Waiting Around
for One Day
What is the one thing you’d like to tell your former self? For the younger version of you just starting out in her coaching business and overcoming her money blocks, what does she need to know about the coming years?
Heather, I am so glad you asked this question. The whole magazine team was curious to hear what I would say, and the answer I’m about to give couldn’t be more in line with this issue’s big business spirit.
The one thing I’d want to tell my former self? Stop holding yourself back, TODAY.
I’m not afraid to admit that there are a few things in my life I would have done differently. People like to say “no regrets,” but I think you can accept your life path, be happy with where you’re at and where you’re headed, and be able to acknowledge that you probably would have done a lot of things differently.
There was a long period in my life where I let my dreams simmer on the back-burner. Throughout my twenties, I constantly thought, “one day, in the future, I’ll do that”—go on the trip, make the money, write the book, have an impact in the world, buy the knee high boots. It wasn’t until I decided that “one day” was actually today that I started to truly create the life I desired.
Part of it was that before I saw coaches having successful, impactful careers, I didn’t have a model for how to live the big life I imagined for myself. I thought you had to be an entertainer, an athlete, or a trust fund baby to get to that level, and I was none of the above.
As coaching and the entrepreneurial path opened up to me, I also had to overcome my unhealthy relationship with money. I was a chronic under-earner who didn’t allow myself much and survived off of very little. I simply didn’t think it was okay to live in financial abundance. I thought that if there was more for me, there was less for someone else.
Once I discovered the truth about money, I devoured the information, read every wealth consciousness book I could get my hands on and attended plenty of seminars.
I started to learn at a deep level that there’s more than enough money for everyone, and I was able to stop creating so much struggle and drama around it. I began to see that money was energy, that it could be brought in with purpose, and that financial security and abundance was actually a much healthier and more positive way to exist in the world than my scraping-by mentality.
However, I didn’t quite realize that the key to success was simply putting yourself in the game. Making the decision to be a big player, not tomorrow, but now.
I wish it hadn’t been good enough for me for so many years to know that “one day” I would have a big life. If I could, I would have my younger self drop my insecurities faster, and allowed myself to shine fully. While my journey from 24k a year to 7-figures happened in just 3-and-a-half years, I didn’t leverage technology as much as I could have, and I see all the ways I still had fears holding me back. Now having a life I’m thrilled about and knowing what’s truly possible for me (and for anyone), I would tell myself that there’s no reason to hold back!
There’s such a big world out there, such a big life to live, and so much impact to be had. The personal and professional transformation that we all undergo to create our dreams doesn’t have to happen overnight, but if you truly accept what is meant for you as being true right now, then there’s no need to limit yourself to the slow lane.
As women who have discovered a new way to do life, I believe we have a responsibility to share that, to be a light and a model for those who are still living in a scarcity mindset that stops them from reaching their true potential. So I would tell all of you reading this right now the same thing I would tell my former self: Make TODAY the day you decide to play big in the world. What are you waiting for?